And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them
up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Fathers, God has given you a command to “train” your child without “provoking” him. Does that sound like a contradiction, or impossibility? Not if one understands the definition of “provoke.” Provoke means: 1. To incite to anger or resentment. 2. To bring about deliberately; induce: provoke a fight. Your child may very well get upset with you; he may even get angry with you. However, you are wrong if you deliberately “provoke” those responses. Do you really want to be able to train your children, without provoking them? Then get over being a couch-potato, and get out the fishing poles! You will teach your children a lot more while putting a worm on a hook, than sitting with your feet on the coffee-table.
I have dropped in today to remind you, “You can mold a mannerism, however, you must chisel a character.” I believe God had that in mind when He inspired the writing of Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” My friend, that is sensible proclamation and we would do well to carefully examine this small, yet powerful, piece of advice.
Fathers, the very first word of that verse is “train.” That means you have to DO something; children do not raise themselves. You will either raise your child, or he/she will raise you! My friend, children need the continual bolstering, love, and Christ-centered guidance of godly fathers. This is a challenge for fathers to be actively engulfed in the maturing of their children.
Now for the hard part: Fathers, you are to raise your child in “the way he should go,” not the way he “wants” to go, nor the way that is popular. So what is this way? God’s Word very clearly answers that. Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life” (John 14:6). You must be persevering and deliberate, in your presentation of the Gospel of Jesus to your children.
The last part
of Proverbs 22:6 is the rucial phrase, “when he is old.” This implies,
there is a possibility there may be a time in your child’s young life,
when he rebels against the values you have attempted to instill in him.
That is why you must remain in constant prayer for your
Now I want you to look in the mirror; are you the kind of parent that can do as God has commanded? Are you a brother, a sister, an aunt or uncle, a teacher, or family friend, that can stand up to this challenge to raise godly children?
You must pray
for God’s help in leading the children in your life, toward a relationship
with Him. Ask Him for “wisdom” (James 1:5), He will give it to you
“liberally.” Now, roll up your sleeves and get to work; get up from
your computer and give your child a hug. Go ahead; you’ll both benefit!
Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not
depart from it.
“There are only two lasting bequests we can give our children; one is roots; the other is wings." - - I'm thankful my fourth grandson, he was born into a family where he will know he is loved unconditionally. With those roots he'll stand in the storms of life. I'm equally thankful that his parents will teach him to dream, and thus give him wings. A child given the will to win, is already halfway to success. A child who grows up without it, is already halfway to failure.” Written by - Hodding Carter
I have dropped by today to tell you, “You must hav e faith in your children, without it, they cannot have faith in themselves.” God has sown within each child, seeds of distinction. When you make it clear to your children you believe in them, you are watering those seeds; you are giving them a chance to grow.
That a child tends to rise, or fall, to the level of your expectations, is common knowledge in the world of psychology. If you constantly criticize your children, they'll grow up to be negative and fearful. Conversely, if you believe in them, and expect them to do well, they'll go the extra mile, attempting to do their best. My friend, it's your faith that creates the atmosphere, in which they learn to fly!
You can’t buy success for your child with money, they'll just spend it. Resources won’t guarantee success, chances are they'll soon squander them. However, if you will give them your trust, your faith and confidence, they'll excel. Let me say also, “Don’t measure your child’s success by what you want them to be; measure it by what God desires of them.”
a moment to listen today,
Listen to their problems,
Tolerate their chatter,
Tell them that you love them,
Tell them "Everything's all right,”
My friend, listen today, whatever you do,
Has God blessed you with children, or grandchildren? If so, the greatest gift you can give, are “roots” and “wings.” Now; do something about it!